by: E.B. Johnson
I am sick to death of scrubbing through “What Men Want” articles.
You know what men want? Complete and confident partners who don’t care what another gender thinks of them; partners who don’t make everything about girls-vs-boys.
If I see another “How to Get a Person Based on Their Gender” piece, I’m going to scream.
Gender means little if you’re broken, confused, scared, and totally distanced from your authentic self. Insecure people are unhappy people, and they make for toxic partners and miserable relationships — no matter your gender or your sexuality.
Self-help and relationship writers have perpetuated so much toxic nonsense on readers over the years, and it’s endlessly disappointing to see the same insufferable pieces making the top page on platforms that claim to be champions of a progressive age.
All of these ideas center around the idea of a partnership that is something shallow and based solely on the wishes and the demands of one partner. As if one partner should always be catering to the other. Not only is it unrealistic, it’s masking the true issues and sending readers out into the world with corrosive information that poisons their authentic happiness.
If you’re a self-help or a relationship writer, you carry a heavy mantle — like it or not. Suck it up, educate yourself, and stop writing advice that you wouldn’t want your own children to follow. It’s almost 2021. If we don’t come to the table as equals, it’s our families and our children who are going to suffer. We can’t afford more unhappy homes.
A better world begins in our minds. Teach your readers to love and respect one another for who they truly are, rather than who the world expects them to be.