What I’ve Learned as a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach

Lessons in life, love, loss, and what it means to be betrayed by the people who you love most.

E.B. Johnson
7 min readJul 30, 2022


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by E.B. Johnson

When I launched my narcissistic abuse recovery program a year ago, I thought I had a lot to teach the world about narcissists and the families that they build. Having experienced narcissistic abuse at the hands of my mother, I have an intimate knowledge of how this insidious form of destruction works.

But I did not know how much my clients would also teach me about narcissistic abuse, recovery, and what it means to love and be loved by your family. I had no idea the lessons they held in store or what it would mean for my journey to happiness, wholeness, and the power to empower others on this path.

What I’ve learned as a narcissistic abuse recovery coach.

Knowledge is power. The more we know, the more we share, the better off we all become. That’s certainly true with narcissistic abuse and recovery. So, these are the biggest lessons I’ve learned that can help you improve where you’re at and how you’re progressing on your own recovery journey.

Family isn’t the end-all, be-all

Unfortunately, one of the hardest lessons you learn in this field is that family isn’t always what we hoped it would be. Sometimes, the people that raise you are and bring you into the world are toxic. They’re dangerous. Sometimes they’re poisonous, abusive, or outright evil.

Biological family isn’t the end-all and be-all of this life. Although we’ve been taught that these bonds are magical and non-voidable, nothing could be further from the truth. Families all around the world make the conscious decision to hurt their members every single day.

The real magic lies in a chosen family. People who wake up and choose you every day — good or bad. The ones who can see your vulnerabilities and love you. Not those who choose to judge you or make your life harder than it ever had to be.



E.B. Johnson

Top Writer | NLPMP | Coach | Host Practical Growth Podcast | Get my tools: https://beacons.ai/therealebjohnson