Q. My mother makes fun of me and tells me that I’ll never be happy the way I am. I like my life and I like my friends. I don’t know what to do about my mother. She hurts me. Can I cut her off?
A. This is a deeply personal question, and one I’m honored to be asked — although I’m extremely sorry that someone so important is treating you this way.
Dealing with a toxic mother isn’t easy. Our mothers are supposed to be the ones who love and support us no matter what. When they tear us down it really affects who we are and how we see the world.
At the end of the day, though, you deserve to be treated well by every single person who is in your life. Your mother included. If she can’t respect you, your boundaries, and the life you’re building for yourself — she doesn’t deserve to be in it.
Her place as your mother doesn’t give her license to tear you down. Remember that, and remember your self-worth and your right to a future that’s filled with love and support.
It’s time to cut ties with your toxic mother
Though we honor our mothers, what happens when they don’t return that respect? It may be time to cut ties.