It’s just different for the man

When candid takes reveal the destructive mistakes and outdated beliefs that destroy lives and relationships.

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The bomb drops.

That’s how I ended up in my living room one snowy morning, watching (for the first time ever) season 3 of The Real Housewives of New York.

It all sits wrong.

For a moment, I pondered this statement.

“I don’t know. It’s just different for the man.”

My dad remarried, my mother never did. He had friends and took trips. My mother left the house to work and took 3 trips that I can ever remember in my lifetime with her.

Realization detonation.

I rolled the question around in my head, tossed it around in my hands, and got the taste of it under my tongue. I couldn’t quite get why it sat so wrong with me. And then it hit.

I rolled the question around in my head, tossed it around in my hands, and got the taste of it under my tongue.

They had built their entire lives around their husbands. The men had not done the same. While the women made their lovers the center of the universe, the men they invested in went on living their lives.

Wake up and build something.

This moment reinforced to me an important lesson I had been mulling on since I was a young woman.

We cannot build our entire worlds on shifting sands.

Unless you want to end up divorced, miserable, and sitting in the middle of an empty life searching for meaning that seems lost — you need to wake up and you need to wake up fast.

Conclusion.

I’m thankful to women like my mother and (abstractly) “The Countess” for teaching me these lessons, but I’m primarily grateful that I’ve taken them to heart as early as I have.

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Certified Life Coach | NLP-MP | Entrepreneur | I write about relationships, psychology, and the growth mindset. Founder @ Dragr LLC. 📱: about.me/EBJohnson

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