Q. As a person with no immediate family, I often feel hurt when my friends have to focus on their families first, even though I know what they are doing is right. How can I move past that on my own? (via Quora)

A. Your hurt is coming from a place of insecurity and fear of abandonment. This is something I have faced in my own life. One of the best ways to deal with this is to fill your life with things you love to do. Find passion in your pastimes and fill the surrounding space with these hobbies whenever your friends have to pull away for their own families. They serve as a distraction, and also a healthier way to process your feelings from a more…