Even the royal family has them, and they matter now more than ever.

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by: E.B. Johnson

Prince Harry is in the news again and inspiring conversation. In a recent interview, the once-royal gave more insight into the break with his family and the ensuing relocation. Despite the royal rift, his answers were a surprise to a lot of people. Instead of giving us the usual diplomatic nothings, Princess Diana’s youngest son stood in his truth and described a desire to be a “cycle breaker” in parenting and the family life he is able to provide his children.

Happiness requires making a change.

Cycle breakers are unique individuals who step outside of their toxic family traditions to establish something…


Are you currently on a path to healing your childhood abuse and neglect? Take your healing the extra mile with these tips. By addressing what happened in the past, we…


What gives your life purpose or meaning? It’s time for you to figure out what you want to do with your life.

A woman in a blue truck smiles as she holds her steering wheel and pets her dog, whose head rests on her shoulder.
A woman in a blue truck smiles as she holds her steering wheel and pets her dog, whose head rests on her shoulder.
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by: E.B. Johnson

What is it you want to do with your life? Do you know what makes you happy? Do you know what your ideal future would look like? We have to have a clear vision of our happiness in order to build it, but that takes some genuine honesty and a strong sense of who we are. If you want to ensure a future, that’s worthwhile, then you need to identify your purpose when it comes to your self-fulfillment. …


There’s no hiding a heart that’s falling from the heights of love.

Is your new love interest becoming a more serious fling? Are things heating up or getting a bit…


If you feel the need to change your partner, then it’s time to stop and reassess.

One partner drinks coffee and stares at their computer, while the other leers over them — upset with their hands spread wide.
One partner drinks coffee and stares at their computer, while the other leers over them — upset with their hands spread wide.
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by: E.B. Johnson

Relationships go through a lot of difficulties. In the beginning, things are exciting and new. But it’s not long until the flaws begin to show. Our partners reveal more of themselves and we are left to reckon with it. Sometimes these realizations drive us closer together, and sometimes they bring out an unhealthy desire to “fix” or change our partners in a number of ways. That’s not how good partnerships are built, however. We can’t change our partners and we shouldn’t even try.

Signs you’re trying to change them.

Are you trying to change your partner? It’s not always as obvious as we…


Q. How do you deal with someone who blames you for everything? (via Quora)

A. It’s not really possible to effectively deal with this kind of person. Whether they have narcissism, or just an inability to see outside of themselves, they are showing a failure to take responsibility for themselves, their emotions, or their lives in general. That’s not something that you will change — that is a pattern of behavior and belief that they have to change in themselves.

Rather than fighting with them, look inward. What do you want to improve for yourself? What steps can you take…


Is your partner really serious about you? Or are they leading you on? It’s crucial that we’re honest with ourselves when setting up to invest in a new relationship. If…


Are you falling in love with a narcissist? These are the traits they may be looking for in you.

A sad woman sits in bed and looks out of the window, while her partner sits on the edge of the bed with his head in his hands.
A sad woman sits in bed and looks out of the window, while her partner sits on the edge of the bed with his head in his hands.
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by: E.B. Johnson

When it comes to choosing romantic partners, narcissists act carefully and consistently in order to select the right mate. Unlike those with a healthy sense of self and compassion, the narcissist has a different view of love or connection. Rather than seeing it as a chance to experience an enhanced version of life, they see relationships as an opportunity to validate themselves, their egos, and their grandiose needs. In order to avoid the narcissist’s trap, we have to rebuild our sense of self and create boundaries we can stand beside.

The traits narcissists look for in their partners.

Narcissists don’t settle down with just anyone…


Q. Can you describe what it feels like to have empathy fatigue? (via Quora)

A. Empathy fatigue is much like any other fatigue in this life, though it has a few more interesting facets. On the surface level, you may find it hard to relate to others. You start to feel burned out and exhausted, and may even seek more alone time to rest and recharge your emotional batteries.

Next comes the frustration. You may notice a shift in mood as your fuse grows shorter and you find it hard to do the emotional labor your friends and family ask…

E.B. Johnson

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