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The best stories this week.

These are the best and most popular stories on LV Development this week. Discover how you can safeguard your wellbeing and build better relationships. All while manifesting a life that is authentically your own.The most popular stories this week.


Want to get your happily ever after? Stop going back to these toxic relationships.

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by: E.B. Johnson

For a lot of people, intimate relationships inhabit a core piece of life experiences and happiness. We love to be in love, but not every story turns out like the romance we hoped for. Sometimes, the relationships we build come tumbling down around us. It’s important to take note of our patterns and all the things we got wrong, so we can build better relationships for ourselves in the future. The more bad relationships you avoid, the more good relationships you can bring into your life.

What do relationships mean to you?

Our intimate partners can form a cornerstone of our lives, but when our relationships with them become complicated or toxic, it can seriously undermine our happiness. Romantic relationships are only worthwhile when they bring value and joy into our lives. When they tear us apart or bring us down, they only further destroy the hope we’re trying to build for our future. …


Not all families work the way we want them to. When your family fails, these techniques can help you bring together a new one.

Three women laugh together in the afternoon light.
Three women laugh together in the afternoon light.
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by: E.B. Johnson

Family is a big word, and one which means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. For some, it’s a lifelong commitment to looking out for one another and supporting one another. For others, it’s chaos and torment of the highest degree. Our families are complicated and they aren’t made any easier by the pace of the changing world. Sometimes, it’s necessary to make a break from the people who raised us and build a chosen family of our own.

Some families are born and some are chosen.

As children, our families form the base of our world and the first reference point by which we learn to see ourselves in the world. They’re important, and they mark the first big developmental lessons and milestones we reach along the way. Not all families take care of their own, though, and not all families love their members for who they authentically are. While we’re all born with some kind of family, they are not always the people with us at the finish line. …


We are surrounded with people who deny science and reality. Overcoming our differences requires finding better ways to connect.

A “fake news” sign sits against a wall of yellow.
A “fake news” sign sits against a wall of yellow.
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by: E.B. Johnson

It seems like no matter where you go in this world, there are those who vociferously deny science and all the plethora of evidence that comes with it. They deny climate change, life-saving vaccines, and even the glaring realities that are staring them in the face. Their denial knows no bounds, but where does it actually come from?

It turns out that there are a number of factors which can contribute to someone’s likelihood of denying science. From a desire to fit in with certain societal standards, to low scientific literacy and a commitment to conspiracies — learning how to communicate with those who deny science requires first understanding where the root of this denial comes from. …


Instead of seeing your depression as an obstacle, see it as a warning sign. It’s time to make serious changes.

A woman sits on a kitchen counter and stares into space as she drinks espresso.
A woman sits on a kitchen counter and stares into space as she drinks espresso.
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by: E.B. Johnson

It’s that time of the year when the world gets cold and still, and with that comes all types of new emotions and experiences. As we continue to battle the COVID pandemic, it’s becoming harder and harder to deal with the complex feelings of day-to-day life. It’s no wonder so many people are finding themselves depressed and struggling to cope — but what if our depression had a deeper message for us? A silver lining we’re failing to appreciate?

We have to see depression differently.

Whether dealing with a long-help clinical diagnosis, or seasonal affective disorder aggravated by the endless series of pandemic restrictions and lockdowns — depression is a serious cause for concern and one which can derail us across our lives. Depression is nothing to ignore, but it’s also nothing to fear. As a matter of fact, our depression is a part of us and it has a message we have to find the courage to hear loud and clear. …


Backseat parents make it impossible to thrive on your own terms. They undermine your happiness and your sense of self in this life.

It’s challenging to see your children as the adults that they are. It’s hard to see them making their own decisions and their own mistakes too. For this reason, you can find your caretakers being overbearing, or engaging in backseat parenting. While it may come from a place of love, it becomes a major wall and point of contention in our relationships with them. …


Sure, people pleasing might gain you surface level friends — but it will also bring you soul-crushing disappointment.

A man in a yellow hoodie lays in long grass.
A man in a yellow hoodie lays in long grass.
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by: E.B. Johnson

When we live our lives in the shadows of other people’s needs, we can become lost and detached from our sense of self and our sense of purpose. Over time, this serving of others becomes a pattern and you can find yourself dealing with the toxic habit of people pleasing. We can’t make others happy in this life. Each of us is responsible for our own happiness, but until we accept that we can find ourselves on a very rocky road.

Our needs are the only ones we can meet.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of people pleasing, especially if you are someone with a troubling or traumatic background. In childhood, we learn to be confident in ourselves and the service of our own needs. When we learn that meeting these needs (or expressing ourselves) is unsafe, we can fall into bad habits like people pleasing, which teaches us that we have to meet the needs of others before our own in order to receive love or gratitude. …

About

E.B. Johnson, NLP-MP

Certified Life Coach | NLP-MP | Entrepreneur | I write about relationships, psychology, and the growth mindset. Founder @ Dragr LLC. 📱: about.me/EBJohnson

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