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by: E.B. Johnson

The day has finally come — Relationship Renovator is here! This is a collection of some of my best Medium content, as well as new advice and essays on everything from addressing childhood trauma before investing in a relationship, to teaching yourself radical self-honesty as it pertains to romantic relationships.

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Re-building and enhancing the way you see relationships is a crucial part of figuring out what you want from life. We’re social creatures, but we all need and want different things from the connections that we build intimately with others.

Do you…

Have you and your partner come to a cross roads? It may be time to get some space and a bit of perspective…

A man shuffles through a stack of papers while his partner looks on sadly.
A man shuffles through a stack of papers while his partner looks on sadly.
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by: E.B. Johnson

If your relationship has become dysfunctional, it may be time to admit that you need to take a break. Taking a break doesn’t need to be a copout. For the right couple, getting some individual space can be exactly what is needed to come back together, stronger and more focused than ever. Have you and your partner hit a crossroads? It may time to take a little distance away from one another, and this is how you can do it effectively.

It’s not always a matter of endings.

Every relationship encounters hardship and struggle. Whether it’s death, financial scarcity, or an emotional unwinding —…

Q. Why do I constantly feel the need for friendship and how can I stop? (via Quora)

A. I’m going to take some liberties here and assume you mean why do you feel the constant need to be surrounded by companionship. Believe it or not, this is a common response to trauma and one that’s really important to address.

We struggle to be alone when we’re dealing with deep-seated confidence issues and pain. Maybe something happened to you in the past that left you filled with fear. …

Not every apology is created equally. Do you know how to spot the signs of a fake apology? Before you bring that snake back into your embrace, make sure you’re…

Is your partnership feeling a little shaky? These are some of the best ways to strengthen your relationship.

The profile of a couple embraces and kisses as the sun sets over a grassy field.
The profile of a couple embraces and kisses as the sun sets over a grassy field.
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by: E.B. Johnson

Have you and your partner questioned your relationship? When life challenges us, it can cause our relationships to weaken in a number of ways. We begin to drift away from one another and can find conflict at an all-time high. Getting things back on track isn’t easy, but it is possible when we take focused action to bring ourselves back together in love and connection.

Strength comes as the result of challenge.

Bodybuilders aren’t born with rippling muscles and chiseled physiques. They get their bodies as the result of focused effort and hard work. We could say the same about our relationships. Partnerships aren’t…

Q. What can I do to find healing from betrayal trauma? (via Quora)

A. Being betrayed is one of the most painful events we can experience. Not only does it destroy our trust in others, but it destroys our trust in self too. In order to get back on a level playing field, we have to heal and find resolution. But that resolution comes in waves and looks different for everyone.

First you need to educate yourself. Learn everything you can about betrayal trauma and how it impacts your emotions, your nervous system, your cognitive ability, and your physical body…

Life is hard. Learn how to live in the moment to increase your happiness.

A woman lays in the sunshine and laughs with her friend.
A woman lays in the sunshine and laughs with her friend.
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by: E.B. Johnson

It isn’t easy to live in the moment — especially not in today’s society. We’re forced to look to the future in eager anticipation, but we’re all still stuck in the past where so much pain still lurks. If we truly want to be happy, then we have to break out of both these states. Learning to be present where we’re at is how we maximize our learning and maximize our ability to thrive in the modern world.

Being present is how we thrive.

How often do you consciously allow yourself to live in the moment? Do you usually find your mind wandering…

Q. How do I help my girlfriend deal with her negative emotions? She is highly sensitive and has her feelings hurt frequently by minor things that other people do and say and things I do and say. She has trouble standing up for herself too. (via Quora)

A. It’s hard when we’re dealing with a partner who is highly sensitive or struggling with deep personal issues. We love the people we build our lives with, and seeing them suffer can cause us to suffer too. …

E.B. Johnson

Author | NLP-MP | I write about relationships, psychology, and growth. Founder @ The Dragr App. My new book — Relationship Renovator — is available now.

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