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The best stories this week.

These are the best and most popular stories on LV Development this week. Discover how you can safeguard your wellbeing and build better relationships. All while manifesting a life that is authentically your own.The most popular stories this week.


Not all families work the way we want them to. When your family fails, these techniques can help you bring together a new one.

Three women laugh together in the afternoon light.
Three women laugh together in the afternoon light.
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by: E.B. Johnson

Family is a big word, and one which means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. For some, it’s a lifelong commitment to looking out for one another and supporting one another. For others, it’s chaos and torment of the highest degree. Our families are complicated and they aren’t made any easier by the pace of the changing world. Sometimes, it’s necessary to make a break from the people who raised us and build a chosen family of our own.

Some families are born and some are chosen.

As children, our families form the base of our world and the first reference point by which we learn to see ourselves in the world. They’re important, and they mark the first big developmental lessons and milestones we reach along the way. Not all families take care of their own, though, and not all families love their members for who they authentically are. While we’re all born with some kind of family, they are not always the people with us at the finish line. …


We are surrounded with people who deny science and reality. Overcoming our differences requires finding better ways to connect.

A “fake news” sign sits against a wall of yellow.
A “fake news” sign sits against a wall of yellow.
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by: E.B. Johnson

It seems like no matter where you go in this world, there are those who vociferously deny science and all the plethora of evidence that comes with it. They deny climate change, life-saving vaccines, and even the glaring realities that are staring them in the face. Their denial knows no bounds, but where does it actually come from?

It turns out that there are a number of factors which can contribute to someone’s likelihood of denying science. From a desire to fit in with certain societal standards, to low scientific literacy and a commitment to conspiracies — learning how to communicate with those who deny science requires first understanding where the root of this denial comes from. …


Instead of seeing your depression as an obstacle, see it as a warning sign. It’s time to make serious changes.

A woman sits on a kitchen counter and stares into space as she drinks espresso.
A woman sits on a kitchen counter and stares into space as she drinks espresso.
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by: E.B. Johnson

It’s that time of the year when the world gets cold and still, and with that comes all types of new emotions and experiences. As we continue to battle the COVID pandemic, it’s becoming harder and harder to deal with the complex feelings of day-to-day life. It’s no wonder so many people are finding themselves depressed and struggling to cope — but what if our depression had a deeper message for us? A silver lining we’re failing to appreciate?

We have to see depression differently.

Whether dealing with a long-help clinical diagnosis, or seasonal affective disorder aggravated by the endless series of pandemic restrictions and lockdowns — depression is a serious cause for concern and one which can derail us across our lives. Depression is nothing to ignore, but it’s also nothing to fear. As a matter of fact, our depression is a part of us and it has a message we have to find the courage to hear loud and clear. …


Backseat parents make it impossible to thrive on your own terms. They undermine your happiness and your sense of self in this life.

It’s challenging to see your children as the adults that they are. It’s hard to see them making their own decisions and their own mistakes too. For this reason, you can find your caretakers being overbearing, or engaging in backseat parenting. While it may come from a place of love, it becomes a major wall and point of contention in our relationships with them. …


Sure, people pleasing might gain you surface level friends — but it will also bring you soul-crushing disappointment.

A man in a yellow hoodie lays in long grass.
A man in a yellow hoodie lays in long grass.
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by: E.B. Johnson

When we live our lives in the shadows of other people’s needs, we can become lost and detached from our sense of self and our sense of purpose. Over time, this serving of others becomes a pattern and you can find yourself dealing with the toxic habit of people pleasing. We can’t make others happy in this life. Each of us is responsible for our own happiness, but until we accept that we can find ourselves on a very rocky road.

Our needs are the only ones we can meet.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of people pleasing, especially if you are someone with a troubling or traumatic background. In childhood, we learn to be confident in ourselves and the service of our own needs. When we learn that meeting these needs (or expressing ourselves) is unsafe, we can fall into bad habits like people pleasing, which teaches us that we have to meet the needs of others before our own in order to receive love or gratitude. …


Not all self-help content is created equal. This is how to tell what advice is helpful and what isn’t.

A sign reading ‘A better me’ sits against a white background. A small plant sits beside it.
A sign reading ‘A better me’ sits against a white background. A small plant sits beside it.
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by: E.B. Johnson

As it’s the start of a new year, we’re seeing a boom in self-help content all over the place. While we might normally consider this craze in self-improvement a good thing, that’s not always the case. Not all self-help content is created equal, and some of it can actually enforce dangerous or half-cocked notions that further undermine our happiness. It’s important to know the difference between good self-help and bad self-help, but that requires increasing our own understanding of a tricky topic.

Not all self-help content is helpful.

We’re living through tough times, which makes it only natural that we should want to improve ourselves and our living conditions. Many of us have turned to self-help in these turbulent days in order to enhance our understanding of self and the skills we have to offer. Not all self-help content is helpful, though. As a matter of fact, some of it is quite toxic and harmful to the improvements we’re striving to make. …


Charisma is a powerful thing. The more of it you have, the more doors you open for yourself into the future.

Who is the most charismatic person you know? Perhaps they light up a room when they walk in, or perhaps they’re a leader you admire in the workplace. When you cultivate charisma, you increase your presence; not just with others, but with yourself too. In order to become the charismatic or joyous person that you wish you to be, though, you have to figure out your deeper desires and boost your sense of self-confidence and self-worth.

Charisma isn’t something that we wear on the outside like armor. It’s a light that comes from within when we find the natural flow in our own lives. …

About

E.B. Johnson, NLP-MP

Certified Life Coach | NLP-MP | Entrepreneur | I write about relationships, psychology, and the growth mindset. Founder @ Dragr LLC. 📱: about.me/EBJohnson

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