Feeling scared? Out of place? You may find yourself resorting to defense mechanisms that bring even more trouble into your life. Although these mechanisms are meant to protect us and safeguard our happiness, they often do the opposite.

Unchecked defenses can put up walls we didn’t even realize existed. They can erode our interpersonal relationships and create divides where there was once connection. In order for us to thrive and live in both love and fulfillment, we have to find better ways to cope with the adversity and the hardship present all around us. It’s not always about putting up walls. Sometimes, it’s about opening up the heart and taking the right risks.

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